10 Steps to Seeing Guests Return

It is exciting to see guests  – but then to never see them again is frustrating.

The national average for guests returning is about 7%. 

Let's talk about how you can bring that number up. 

Here are 10 steps you can take to see more guests return.  

1. Make a great first impression. 

The first impression truly is a lasting impression. If you don't make a great first impression with families, they will not return. Without a great first impression, you can try all kinds of things to get them to return, but it is in vain. 

Stats show that people decide in the first 8 minutes if they are going to return or not. Make sure those first 8 minutes are great. 

2. Put your best people on your greeter team. 

Make sure your greeter team people are all-stars. 

A - attitude / they should a positive attitude

L - love for people / they should naturally love people

L - laugh with people / they should be a natural at creating a fun, joyful vibe 

S - smile / their natural face posture should be a smile

T - talker / they should be good at making small talk with people

A - attention focused on the guest - it should all be about the guest

R - relational - they should be good at building relationships with guests

We must remember this important factor - people will remember how you made them feel. Whether you realize it or not - everyone is part of the guest services team. The guest experience goes way beyond the front door. Their experience is the sum total of all of their interactions with your team members.

There are four things guests hate to do at church:

1. They hate waiting in line.

2. They hate not knowing where to go.

3. They hate being ignored. 

4. They hate being singled out. 

Here are some questions guests are asking themselves: 

Will they be friendly?

Will my kids like it?

Will there be anyone else like me?

Where do I go? 

3. Bring the wow factor.

When you exceed people's expectations by going the second mile, you will see them return. 

Jesus talked about going the second mile. Think about how you can go the second mile to see guests return.  Here are some examples.

Normal factor - having a good check-in program for guests.

Wow factor - having a separate check-in area that is just for guests.

Normal factor - send a follow-up email to guests.

Wow factor - sending a handwritten follow-up note to guests with a gift card.

Normal factor - finding the coat that a family left and calling to tell them it will be in lost and found.

Wow factor - finding the coat that a family left and delivering it to their house. 

Normal factor - calling a locksmith for a single mom who is locked out of her car in your parking lot after church.

Wow factor - calling a locksmith for a single mom who is locked out of her car in your parking lot after church and paying for it

4. Watch your words- they convey more than you say.

Here are some examples.

Enjoy the service – you're saying - you are a spectator, sit back and watch, it’s not about you…its about what’s happening on the stage.

Instead say this  – welcome – so glad you are part of the service today.

Are you new here?  You're saying - I don’t know you. Even if you’ve been coming for 20 years you are not important.

Instead – Hey, I’m Dale. I don’t think I’ve had the privilege of meeting you yet.

Thanks for visiting today. you're saying - you’re an outsider

Instead  - We are honored to have you as our guest.

I don't know. You're saying I don’t care. You’re not worth the effort to find out.

Instead - That's a great question. Let me find out the answer for you. 

Go down that hallway.  Take a left. Go up the stairs.  Take a right by the water fountain. You're saying you’re not important enough for me to leave this spot. Good luck. You are on your own.

Instead - I'd be honored to walk you there.

5. Does and Don't of making a first impression:

Don’t say “I don’t know” and leave a guest hanging.

Do say “That’s a great question. Let me find out for you.”

Don’t say “She can’t talk right now.”

Do Say “She’s currently teaching the kids. I’d be happy to let her know you stopped by and give her a message for you.”

Don’t say “No problem.”

Do say “It’s my pleasure.”

Don’t say “It's over there.”

Do say “I’d be happy to show you. Follow me.”

Don’t make guests wait in a long line.

Do have a separate area for guests to check-in.

Don’t stay in your huddle of friends and ignore guests.

Do get out of your clique and talk with guests.

Don’t make them feel like they are a bother.

Do show genuine interest in them and answer

6. Be committed to excellence.

Everything speaks. Do the little things well.

Excellence is the whisper that comes from the little things done well. - Dale Hudson

7. Establish a connection as soon as possible.

Invite them to coffee or lunch. 

8. Say good-bye well.  

Have greeters that greet families before and after the service. The last impression is just as important as the first impression. 

9. Follow-up.  

Send them a handwritten thank you note. 

Text them.

10. Offer a gift for their second visit. 

At one of the churches where I lead the children's ministry, our return rate was about 7%. We decided to make an investment and give away t-shirts on the second visit. Once we implemented this our return rate went up to 38%. 

Put these 10 tips into play at your ministry and I promise you that your return rate will go up.

Remember...you can't disciple empty seats. Getting guests to return must be a top priority for your ministry if you want to impact kids and families with the Gospel.  

p.s. Have you read my book "Be Our Church Guest?"  It's a must read if you want to see more of your guests return. You can get it here. 


25 Largest Children's Ministries in the Nation 2026

Jesus makes it very clear that we should reach and disciple as many people as we can.  

He is not willing that any should perish, but that all would come to Him. 2 Peter 3:9

He wants his house full with people. 

So His master said, "Go out into the country lanes and behind the hedges and urge anyone you find to come, so that the house will be full."

On the day of Pentecost over 3,000 people came to Christ. 

Those who accepted his message were baptized, and about three thousand were added to their number that day. Acts 2:41

Numbers matter. Because behind every number is a person that Jesus died for and seeks to redeem. 

There is much we can learn from these children's ministries. I have put links for each children's ministry so you can go to their website and be inspired to reach more children and families for Jesus and get fresh ideas.

Exam the largest churches in the nation and without exception you will find a thriving children's ministry.  God uses children's ministry to help grow the church and reach people with the Gospel. 

I would also say this. While we count how many people are attending our churches...the number that matters the most is how many people who live around us that don't know Jesus. That is the overarching number that we should focus on and pray about. That is what should keep us up at night. That is what should motivate us to keep growing and reaching more people. 

These children's ministries have grown because this has been their focus. May it inspire us to keep the main thing the main thing...reaching kids and families with the Gospel. Amen and Amen. 

1. Life Kids

2. Highland Kids

3. Christ Church of the Valley Kids

4. Kids Life

5. Dream City Kids 

6. Waumba Land & Upstreet 

7. Kids' Club 

8. CF Kids  

9. Eleven22 Kids  

10. South East Kids 

11. Eagle Brook Kids 

12. LP Kids

13. FC Kids 

14. Mariner's Kids

15. Community Bible Kids 

16. Central Kids

17. Saddleback Kids 

18. Prestonwood Kids

19. WC Kids 

20. Gateway Kids 

21. Kidventure 

22. Kid Life

23. eKidz  

24. CTK Kids

25. Bayside Kids 

*this is based on Outreach Magazine's largest churches report 

The Most Effective Way to Partner with Parents

How to partner with parents is a big topic of discussion in the world of children and family ministry. 

It's an important element. We know parents are the biggest influence in a child's life as they should be. How effective we are at influencing the biggest influencers matters...a lot. 

There are lots of great ideas out there. Believe me, I know. I have probably tried them all at one time or another.  My thoughts are not just speculation, but have been born out of real time, hands on ministry with families. 

That being said, I believe spiritual milestones are the most effective way to partner with parents. Milestones are key times in a family's life when they are looking for spiritual help and insight. Milestones can be life changing for families. I have seen the spiritual anointing that is on Milestones lived out in real time ministry. 

Milestones remind me of the experience that Abraham and Isaac had together when God asked Abraham to sacrifice Isaac. It was a life-changing moment. They came back changed from the experience. There is so much spiritual power when a parent and child encounter the presence of God together.

I believe God is still at work in the lives of today's' families. I believe one of the biggest ways He works is through milestone moments. If you are intentional about this, I believe God can use it in your ministry to see families' lives be changed.

There are 5 key times when Milestones can help you be effective in partnering with parents and influencing them. Here they are.

Parent & Child Dedication

One of the most important times to influence parents is when they are ready to dedicate their child to the Lord. This is one of the key times when parents open the door of their heart and are receptive to your insight and teaching not only about dedicating their children, but also how to raise them to love and follow Jesus. 

Bible Presentation

Another key time when you can equip and partner with parents is when their children are entering elementary school. Bible presentation and celebration is a shared experience for kids and their parents at this crucial time in their life.  

Salvation

Starting Point is a one-session class designed for kids who are interested in starting a relationship with Jesus. The class is designed for kids and their parents to attend together and provides tools that parents can use to follow up with their children at home.  

Baptism

Baptism for Kids is a one-session class that helps kids understand baptism. The class answers questions like...

What is baptism?

Why should I be baptized?

When should I be baptized?  

It is designed for kids and their parents to attend together and provides follow-up tools that parents can use to help prepare their children for baptism.

Elementary Graduation

One of the key times parents are open to your guidance and input is when their child is transitioning fro elementary to middle school. This is one of the most critical times in children's ministry and it's vital to have a clear strategy for influencing kids and families. 

Normally, these milestones sell for $199 for all five.  Hundreds of churches across the country are using these milestones to impact and influence parents. 

I am committed to getting these effective resources in the hands of children's ministry leaders. 

So...for the month of October...I am offering all 5 milestones for only $99. This is your opportunity to get these great resources for a fraction of the normal selling point. You can get the milestones at this link. 

If you want to be more effective with influencing parents...this is a great opportunity. Get the milestones today and watch what God does through it. 

10 Great Quotes About Excellence That Will Inspire You

We are called to give our very best in ministry.

Colossians 3:23 reminds us of this.

"Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as working for the Lord, not for human masters, since you know that you will receive an inheritance from the Lord as a reward."

We should be striving toward excellence. Will you always hit the mark? No. Does this mean you should just do things "to get by?" No. Does this mean you should only do what is easy? No.

Our ministry to kids and their families should be done with excellence. When you do this, over time it will reflect a strong commitment to reaching and discipling kids and their families. 

Here are 10 quotes that will inspire you to keep striving for ministry excellence.

"Excellence is doing ordinary things extraordinarily well." 
John Gardner

“Perfection is not attainable, but if we chase perfection we can catch excellence.”  Vince Lombardi

"Excellence is the whisper that comes from doing a hundred little things well."  Dale Hudson

"To leave your mark in the world, you will have to stand someplace you’ve never been willing to stand before. And you will have to have the courage to aspire to excellence." Debbie Ford

“There is a level of fulfillment that comes with serving God with sheer excellence, even when facing the mountains of this world.” Gift Mona

"Whether it’s a team, a company, a classroom, or a family, everything begins to change when excellence becomes the expectation and the mindset. It’s never accidental. It’s always intentional.” Jason Curry

“Excellence will speak volumes on your behalf. That is why, even in silence, you will not be completely silent, because excellence talks the loudest." Gift Mona

"Whatever you do, do it well." Walt Disney

"Excellence is the gradual result of always striving to do better."  Pat Riley

"There are no shortcuts to true excellence."  Angela Duckworth